Post-Christmas Resolution, Day 101 – Another Look At Rejected Giving

A nice person was offered bus fare this morning.

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While I was running this morning, I stopped and offered to pay for someone’s bus fare as they waited at the bus stop. The woman smiled and said, ‘No thanks. I have a bus pass.’

I smiled and asked if she would instead like to pass this along to someone else who might need it more than she did. She paused, her face dropping into a thoughtful expression. Then she took the fare. I wished her a great day. Had she rejected the second offer I would have stopped and wished her a great day anyway. My intent was not to take up her time.

I’ve written before about the pain of rejection. I think it is important to give with the understanding that not all we have to offer is needed. If we give or try to be nice to someone and they don’t return the favor, it’s important to respect their position.

If we get angry or upset it shows we were expecting something. If we get angry we really aren’t giving freely, we’re trying to take something that the other person may not be ready to give.

Don’t let a rejection deter your giving. Instead, change your expectations and try to give more freely in the future.

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About Eric Winger

Our perception of time is key to how we use our time. The most fundamental way to change that perception is to give our time. This opens us up to new opportunities and ideas from which we can build to really make a difference. ... Yes, we *do* have time to make a difference!
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