“Judgements prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.”
— Wayne Dyer
Think about how many times you judge strangers every day.
Do we drive down the street and silently say “Idiot!” to the car with the stupid bumper stickers?
What do we think when we see the pregnant lady smoking?
Homeless guy is to blame for being homeless, right?
Ever judge a senior manager in a company?
Is that teenager with the skateboard a delinquent or just stoned?
You don’t judge people? Are you being honest with yourself?
I will submit that when we honestly try to help someone else, we have to listen to understand their needs in order to truly help them. To understand their needs we have to understand their motivations. It follows that knowing their motivations we have to know that person.
If we better understand someone, we are less likely to judge them.
It is another way giving our time helps us to become the people we are capable of being.
Served as volleyball line judge tonight at the request of my daughter’s coach. Judging a game is better than judging a person.
So true. Everyone makes judgements, that’s just human nature. Sometimes it’s helpful but most times it’s a barrier and a stressor. For example, it’s easy to get angry at the slow driver infront of us, but when you consider there might be a reason why they are driving slowly (they just got bad news, etc) it allows more compassion and even if its not true i find it makes me less stressed which can only be a positive. Another very thought-provoking post. 🙂
Cat
That’s very insightful, Cat.
Possibly the driver might even be driving slow just to be a safe driver, while I’m going too fast 🙂
Thank you (and thanks for reading along this whole time)!