“A suburban mother’s role is to deliver children obstetrically once, and by car forever after. ”
— Peter De Vries
A lot of parents get frustrated by driving their kids around. They get tired of the traffic, the relentless grind, and being the parent chauffeur.
My wife and I have been driving kids around for years. It’s not always fun but it is one way a parent can help their child stay involved. It gives the kids more opportunities.
Here’s a few ideas to help you keep your sanity and maybe enjoy the rides:
- Build in a little parent time. If you’re taking your child to a music lesson, and you’ve already listened to many lessons, go to the nearby coffee shop for a half hour.
- Plan an errand at the same time. Knocking off a to-do item helps make it valuable for both parent and child.
- Play music you both like, or alternate parent music with kid music on each trip.
- Frustrations are often born out of a desire to be doing something else. As adults, we try to teach our kids to curb their immediate impulses and focus on the long-term good. Try taking your own advice.
- It’s quality one on one time. It’s a great time to talk. Use the time to build a closer relationship with your child.
- Use the time to learn to listen. Very few of us have ever been taught how to listen. Car rides are as good a time as any. Let your child just talk.
Our attitude towards being a parent chauffeur really comes down to a choice.
Do we let it drive us crazy or use it to drive us closer together?
Played the role of parent chauffeur for most of the day.