The Silent Invitation

“Silence is the true friend that never betrays.”

— Confucius

The car is often silent when I drive my children to school.


We walk out the door before 7am, and some mornings not a sound is uttered by the time we get to school ten minutes later. They’re tired. I’m tired.

Nonetheless, it’s tempting to want to talk. To fill the empty space.

As a father, I feel compelled to use the few minutes we have together to discuss some matter of importance. As a human, I feel compelled to talk about what I see around us as we drive. As a person, I feel compelled to talk about me.

But the passing of time is teaching me, through various means, that silence doesn’t need to be filled, and can actually be given as a gift.

When we’re silent around others, we’re giving them an opportunity to speak. Silence is also a sign of respect – a gesture that says, “I value your time.” Even briefly, we’re inviting them to be a part of our lives and to connect with us.

And just as a connection has two ends, listening helps us as well. We connect, learn, understand, and build a relationship.

To be a gift, a silent invitation to let another speak doesn’t need to be taken, just offered, with ears open.

And if it’s not accepted, just enjoy the silence. Together.

Yesterday’s gift of time … Many, many trips driving my kids around town – some moments spent talking, and some in silence.

About Eric Winger

Our perception of time is key to how we use our time. The most fundamental way to change that perception is to give our time. This opens us up to new opportunities and ideas from which we can build to really make a difference. ... Yes, we *do* have time to make a difference!
This entry was posted in Around the House and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to The Silent Invitation

  1. Glad to have discovered you and your brilliance, Eric. I found my way over here after reading Paul Sutherland’s GYA blog today. Beautiful poem on time. Thank you for sharing of yourself with us!

  2. Pingback: Blog Love « run eat life

Comments are closed.